Hi friends I am The Xan / they/them or he/him / Homestuck Trash, Hero of Life/ I mostly reblog memes, some politics, and some helpful stuff. Just a personal blog / I don't know what the fuck I am or what I'm doing or what I want, just like the rest of you.

vampireapologist:

mlmoso:

gay culture is never having a New Years kiss

two years ago on new year’s eve I went out to a gay bar for the first time with a group of men and about 30 minutes before midnight I had to pee and the line was So Long and I got out of the bathroom literally during the 10 second countdown and I was just shouting the countdown as I wove my way through the shoulder-to-shoulder crowd, a little tipsy, looking for my friends, and I found them at the 5-count and my friend grabbed me and said “FOLLOW ME” and in the last 5 seconds before midnight he desperately shoved me into a girl he’d apparently met while I was in the bathroom who said she had no one to kiss and he yelled at us both “SHE’S A LESBIAN” and she kissed me. I’m not sure what my point is here but maybe just go out with a group of gay men who talk to strangers.

drawandchill:

Some conseguences of emotional abuse

• Feeling guilty all the time
• Depression/ anxiety
• Lack of self care
• Developing avoidant personality disorder or social anxiety
• Feeling that is your fault if the other person is angry
• Feeling that you are never good enough
• Inferiority complex
• low self esteem
• suicidality and/or self harm
• Feeling anxious bc you fear other people hate you for silly reasons.. or no reason at all
• Avoiding conflict at all costs
• Feeling like a disgusting piece of shit
• Social isolation
• Fear of saying ‘no’
• You stop share things to people and keep everything to yourself
• You never stand up for yourself.

sapphic-positive:

ariesbutch:

gay men can call women gorgeous and beautiful and no one bats an eye. but a lesbian says she thinks a man is nice to look at and suddenly every one is picking apart her identity because our society is dead set on women investing their time and energy in men. 

people will comb through for any shred of evidence that a woman might be attracted to men and use that against her, to prove that desiring men in an innate part of her. 

your identity is your business. who you want to be with, what feels right to you is your business. you get to decide what is important to you and what parts of your experience you want to keep and what you want to leave behind.

you can be a lesbian if you want to. 

Thank you this is extremely validating and I love you

ddnosakechi:

koalatea:

i hate when ppl make fun of me for trying 2 be positive and spread good vibes like fuck your bitter ass i spent a good portion of my short life being bitter and angry and suicidal if i wanna shoot sunshine out of my ass then i fuckin will 

the worst part is when their all “we can’t all be neurotypical, Karen” like listen, I’m not neurotypical I’m just trying to get better jesus

teathattast:

officialaudreykitching:

‪Butterflies symbolize rebirth, the caterpillar transforms itself by trusting and surrendering to the unknown. This is how you get your wings.‬

kiaranator:

sheriff-haught-sauce:

Greek dude: But…but I brought you a bouquet of olives to win over your heart!

Sappho, lounging on a couch with her girlfriend on her lap, popping grapes into her mouth: Oh muse, singeth to us Despacito.

i let my little sapphic hands do all the work